About the book: 2019 / We all want to raise children successful, independent, happy. And therefore we actively organize their lives, control their behavior, constantly correct and correct them. But our efforts to influence another person by directly influencing him are almost useless. Marina Melia, a psychologist with forty years of experience, offers a more effective way: leave the children alone and turn the focus on themselves, on their own words and actions. The author examines specific cases from his advisory practice and gives algorithms for wise parental behavior that help solve “insoluble” problems.