About the book: 2023 / “Mom” is the first and most important word, mother is the main person in our lives, and mother’s work is the most noble. It is customary to talk about motherhood with aspiration, but in real life, relationships between mothers and adult children are often far from ideal. Maternal power has no boundaries and no statute of limitations: these relationships influence us all our lives, even when we have long since grown up. Conflict with our mother can cause extreme pain; mothers can manipulate us, control our every step and force us to give up interests and desires. According to statistics, the influence of the mother (mother-in-law, mother-in-law) is the third leading cause of divorce after alcoholism and infidelity. Women suffering from loneliness, men who change wives or remain single until they are 40–50 years old - all these people come to see a psychologist... and sooner or later they start talking about their mother. You are holding this book in your hands because you vaguely feel : Your relationship with your mother plays a huge role in your life. This statement is true for almost all of us. A mother can give endless love and cause extreme pain. “Mama” is the most tender word, but it is often pronounced with bitterness. Mothers give their children the whole world, but often rob them of their own lives, forcing them to live someone else’s. The mother is infinitely strong in her influence on the child - and at the same time completely powerless to make him the way she wants. Elena Novoselova, a psychologist with 30 years of experience, talks about this. She analyzes 35 cases from her own practice, explaining with examples what psychological mechanisms are behind the behavior of mothers and adult children, and gives practical recommendations to those who find themselves in similar situations on both sides of the fence. This book will help you understand your personal history and improve relationships in the family and avoid parental mistakes when raising their own children. In situations of acute conflict or long-standing “chronic pain,” people often suffer themselves and torment each other. I believe that empathy and awareness can help us make life easier: build boundaries, and if possible, improve our relationship with our mother (real or internal, “in our head”), make it more constructive and less traumatic. For whom: For adult men and women who want to understand their relationship with their mother (mother-in-law, mother-in-law...) - and, perhaps, not repeat the mistakes of their parents. For mothers who want to improve their relationships with their adult children. For anyone interested in popular psychology.