About the book: 2011 / Neil Ainband - qualified clinical psychologist and specialist in family and marriage issues . Marilyn Kagan is in private psychotherapy practice in Los Angeles. Together, they have been working in the field of psychological counseling for people in difficult life situations for more than forty years. This is a truly transformative book, thanks to which you will be able to identify the typical habits and attitudes that you use throughout your life to protect yourself from disappointment. Marilyn Kagan and Neil Ainband called them "heart defenders." They believe that over time, personal coping mechanisms can become overly ingrained and become habits that are no longer beneficial. The authors talk about the main ten attitudes and show how to recognize those that limit your life and prevent you from achieving complete well-being. The book offers simple tools , with which you can: face your fears and doubts; give up denial; stop always feeling guilty; use both reason and feelings to solve problems.